Randy Orton -v- respect for kids
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Am I wrong to exploit their ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). Am I wrong to look for ways to make my children normal and functional? My kids are falling into a parameter of normal right now. I do blame WWE for this. No, not blame. I credit WWE for the normal (ish) part of my life that is coming about.
I had to endure an IEP meeting today for Lucy. I make no bones about not liking to have any dealings with schools and school systems. Today was different. Eric could not go with me because of the change in his schedule. Was I scared? No. But I was ready. I was armed with a large vocabulary and insults. I am not a nice person.
What happened was this. Ms Oliva (School psychologist) asked what happened over summer break. I patiently waited for her to elaborate. Lucy has changed. Her ODD is basically non-existent at school. She is a model student, a kind friend, and a fantastic student. I kept waiting for the awful stuff. I kept looking for a cue to be judgmental and throw their inability to deal with ODD or ASD or ADHD up in their face.
Mrs C (Lucy's teacher) brought up the wrestling. I was not prepared for that one. And I was hesitant to talk about it with them. Mr M (Vice Principal and only other person in meeting except me) YELLS, "You guys watch wrestling? My GOD we live and breathe it at my house..." and he gets all excited talking about a character called Rey Mysterio. Mrs C started to tell him about Lucy's adventures in meeting her WWE hero's and the two of them engage in this conversation and speculation on the topic. Ms O and I kinda watched and listened. I offered some explanation when prompted.
We discussed the upcoming WWE event in Nashville. We also spoke about how Lucy has not had one single ASD meltdown or ODD outbreak since she started to watch the three WWE shows during the week.
I left the meeting confused. Which is unlike me. I am the one that has control. They accepted the WWE experience as an aid to Lucy and her issues and will use it to help adapt situations that can or may arise.
I think it is interesting how picking a "heel" to root for has fueled the kids interest in this enterprise. Randy Orton is not the only one I root for but he is the one that causes the biggest reaction from Lucy.
So, back to her calling Orton a monster. I had the video that I linked above cued and ready to play. Lucy and I watched it together. She would pause it and we would talk about what was being said. When he got to the part in the interview about his child, Lucy played it back a few times. I asked her why. Her answer was so beautiful. "He is a daddy. So, he can't be all monster." I struggled not to have the mom tears well up. So, Orton has offered another light in this Lucy business.
Lucy does not know her father. Until recently I have kept all men about my age out of my kids life. They both accept Eric as a step-father. But there is the daddy factor that I never considered. Lucy spoke to me for a good two hours about this. She is angry she don't have a daddy. She is angry when her friends talk about their daddies. How the fuck do I fix that? I told her that Eric is her daddy. She said that Eric does not have kids so he don't understand. These are really big and deep things for a kid to keep bottled up. Have I totally fucked up as a parent because I got my heart broken twice?
She got the Daniel Bryan and the Randy Orton action figures out and asked me to sit with her on the couch. 14 was off in another room watching (fucking) CM Punk videos and Eric had gone to work.
"Daniel Bryan did not talk to me at ComicCon. Mommy, he had a kind face." I agree. The man walked past me and made eye contact with me. He has a kind face. Lucy moves the action figure (Boy Barbies damn it... they are just short freaking barbies) around and touches his hands and sets him aside. She then starts to manipulate the Randy Orton (doll). She touches his face and his tattoos. "I want to pick Daniel Bryan to win the Hell in a Cell match." Eye contact... oh my goodness the kid made eye contact with me... do you know how freaking exciting that is to me? ASD kids don't do that without a prompt. "I want to pick Randy Orton to win. He is a daddy and I don't want his daughter to be disappointed." My heart was in my throat. "Who are you picking mom?"
"I am picking Orton. I like his new thing with bringing the Viper back and I like his tattoos." I replied. I really was and AM scared to touch on the daddy issue.
"Mom, Tattoos don't make a person." um... how old are you? geezeus. I just nodded in agreement. "Mom, can we rent the PPV event?" I had to tell her no. Damn near broke my heart to tell her no. But we can't. The money is not there for it. She then asked if I would leave twitter logged on so she could watch the twitter feed. I agreed to this but explained the Orton -vs-Bryan match would occur after bedtime. She told me I could watch the feed and tell her who wins.
Here comes a tear jerker. I went to tuck her in after my shower. She has the Randy Orton (doll) action figure on her extra pillow with a tinker bell bandana over him. I inquired about this. She told me she wanted a Daddy in her room tonight to watch the Cardinals game with her until lights out. Yep. First time in my life I kissed a doll and my kid good night. I kissed a freaking doll for my kid. How about that.